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Every time I go through magazines or converse with friends, we always come to the conclusion that society still perceives women as being submissive. I guess becuase sex involves men inserting themselves into women, maybe becuase men are on top and over women, while they insert their penis and women lay down to take “it in”. Is this considered the natural act of dominance? Does this mean women are submissive?

Let’s face it, some men believe that women are submissive due to their own imagination that women are the second, weaker sex.  I should also state here, that with this belief, comes the mistreatment of women reaffirming the myth that women are their object to own. Men are constantly devising new strategies to keep women in their place. Yet, I tend to believe that this may no longer be the case, unless you live in a third world country. Women are not submissive, unless they want to be, as I find that more women are controlling their relationship by pretending to be submissive.  

Like Neyo says he wants miss independent, someone who walks like a boss and talks like a boss, car and her crib paid for and all of that and most of my guy friends will agree with this sentiment. Yet, these same friends also say that they have problems with their wives/girlfriends because they are too stubborn, they do not listen, because they are simply not submissive enough. Are you confused? Yeah, so am I.

Truth be told, most women today are in the business world than ever before. In fact, the US Labour union shows that 49.83% of all US jobs are held by women and that 51% of all workers in high paying professional and management jobs are women! For me, that screams “Miss Independent”. I then started thinking, could women really  be independent and submissive at the same time? Are women really being independent in one situation and submissive in another in order to be the perfect woman? The truth is, I don’t know the answers to these questions but when I went out to dinner with four of my girlfriends I was curious to see what they thought.

 My girlfriend Maria, an accountant, who has recently gone through a divorce stated that if maybe she acted a little more dumb she might still have been married. Stacy, a Social Worker, also added that women do want some control over their own lives but, when it came down to the bedroom, women had to allow the boyfriends/husbands to take control. Meaning  we had to be a little more submissive as to boost their egos. 

 It appeared to me then that the world is sending us conflicting messages. It seems that women are expected to be business moguls, tearing down the barriers of the business world but at home, we have to turn in our briefcases for aprons and become humble and stupid. My other girlfriend Lisa, then interrupted my thought by simply saying that we have to be submissive in the bedroom because in the bedroom is where men had to feel powerful, and honestly, what woman does not want their man to ravish their body in total sexual submission? Good point!

 Can the power in a submissive/dominant relationship actually tilt in favour of the submissive? And we, as women compromising our  intelligence, our power in pretending to be submissive?  Or are we using our power in pretending to be submissive?

This article seems to have raised more questions than answers, and if I’m going to be honest with you, then I have to state here, that I really do believe that  women are down playing their independence and acting submissive to keep the balance of a relationship neutral and balanced. Or really, so no toes are stepped on and egos don’t get broken. To further instill the concept of a woman, “leading from behind”  or the belief that ”behind every great man, there is a great woman”. The real question, is whether she is screwing him from behind.

What do you think?

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