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I currently posted this article for Parent Palace in where I post a weekly column on Sex and Relationships. Thought I share it with you today but, would love for you to visit me at Parent Palace as well. Will totally love for your more for it!

I remember a time in where I would make preparations in creating a romantic night with my then boyfriend, now husband Lou memorable and just perfect. Wearing a nice, appealing outfit, followed by some food and wine, some sexy under clothes and just taking the time to be with each other. Now, four years later, we are still in love and even more so, with some difficult times we shared as well as some wonderful moments, such as the birth of our son but, sex has now transitioned unto a whole different level.

Lou and I still enjoy our closeness but, sexy outfits have now turned into jeans and T-shirts, food and wine is now minute-meals and apple juice, sexy under clothes, well, I don’t even bother.   We are exhausted and our sexy nights now have to be planned so we don’t loose each other in the process of taking care of “the baby”. 

Lou and I make a conscious effort in making time for each other. Yet, more times than I can count, this proves to be impossible so, when it comes down to SEX, we just go with it. So, at night after the baby has gone to bed, we try to be quiet so the baby does not wake up, or get out of bed or climb into our bed in order to make the rest of the evening ours.  Yet, I notice that Lou and I are in a sexual-comfort zone that still excites us as a couple, because although we plan to spend some “alone” time with each other, it never works out that way and now, it has become a game of “getting it when you can.”

Lou and I enjoy our little flirty games, and we  make a point to remember that we are also Mom and Dad, so everything is rated “G” which means Mommy and Daddy alone time, with ears pricked in case we hear Franco calling us. Yes, it is a whole to do and the freedom to be intimate is now restricted with our beautiful boy, but that is okay.  Yet, at night, after the baby has gone to sleep, we take great comfort in sitting in front of the TV and enjoying our sexy night, because sometimes watching a good movie on the set, is all the sex we want.  We do  however, make it a point to be attentive to one another, so we maintain that closeness that attracted us to each other because we do feel is important. Lou and I both have friends that claim sex has literally become non-existent after  having children, and as time passes we both notice how those relationships has changed, from being couples to simply being parents.

As parents, we need to take a “Time-Out” for sex. Make time to be intimate, to spend some time alone, and make sex a priority. It is an important part of every relationship including Moms and Dads. Becoming parents qualifies taking on different roles togther but, it does not mean, you have to loose each other in the process.

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